Christian dating being alone together
You met up with some of them when you gathered for worship – they arrived early or snuck in late or maybe they served communion or taught your kids or sung harmony.
You said hello and goodbye, and that night, you got the family ready for a week of work and school and everything in between.
This is part of the sacrifice of relationship; there’s no guarantee, but it’s worth the risk.
There’s a difference between “wise risk” and “foolish risk” however.
We made our expectations clear, gave them specific guidance and principles (not just rules), and told them we’d be asking them if they were living up to these standards.
This deepened our relationship, opened communication and created healthy accountability.
Until we had gone over these principles together (my wife and I, our daughter and the boy) and made sure there was complete agreement, we didn’t allow a dating relationship to begin.
We found that this was a great help not only to our daughters but also to the young men who wanted to date them.
He knows every guy’s heart better than we ever will, and the best part of this is they can’t fool God like they may be able to fool us (1 Samuel 16: 7). If we trust Him, we can avoid a lot of unnecessary heartbreak.What you didn’t know was that very same evening, many of my single counterparts around the nation and globe were huddled in front of screens, swiping left and right, clicking on pictures and scrolling through matches.Smiling pictures were being uploaded, and smiles, winks, and questions were being tapped through cyberspace.Though there were sometimes nervous jitters as family members (and especially the young men) anticipated these sessions, in each case the time together was strategic, encouraging and rewarding.Having consistently practiced this when they were dating, it was impossible for us and for our daughters to imagine them dating a young man without first openly addressing with him all the principles that follow.